Anonymous said: hi lady. been following your blog for a while now, i'm a big fan of your taste and your mindset. i need some advice - a friend of mine's mom recently passed, and i'm not sure what to do besides offer to talk/sit quietly/hang out/stay away? i know everyone grieves differently, but what did you find helped you when you went through the same experience? anything would be extremely helpful.

Hi there. So sorry to hear about your friend’s mom. :-( One of the things I found very overwhelming right after my mom passed away was all the condolence messages I received. I know that people were only caring but I constantly felt bad about not replying to them as I had a lot of other things on my mind like my mom’s funeral, relatives from all over the world staying in our house, and everything. So I needed some kind of “space” from being reminded of my mom’s death all the time. My friends were the best. They were updated on my mom’s situation, from the day she had a stroke till she was gone and everything that happened after that, in a group chat on Facebook. My friends would meet me if I needed to talk or if I needed a hug or to just talk about frivolous things. In my case, the fact that I knew that my friends would be there for me no matter what was really helpful during tough times. They would check in on me from time to time but also give me space if I didn’t reply to messages etc. So perhaps you should just ensure your friend that you’ll be there for her or him, and that your friend can reach out to you whenever she or he wants to. Most of the time, I just wanted to talk about anything but sadness with my friends and hang out. 

Anonymous said: Har du tatt opp fag på Bjørknes? I så fall, hvordan var undervisningen og miljøet der? Ville du anbefalt å gå der?

Jeg har både tatt opp fag og tatt nye fag på Bjørknes. Anbefaler Bjørknes på det aller sterkeste. Har lært utrolig mye mens jeg har tatt fag der og de aller fleste lærerne er ekstremt dyktige. Finnes jo alltid et par unntak da. Det er bare å maile meg om du vil ha navn på bra og mindre bra lærere. Hadde i hvert fall verdens beste mattelærer i S1+S2. Undervisningen er intens; cruiser gjennom pensum veldig fort, men sammenliknet med universitetet så går undervisniningen i sneglefart. Miljøet på Bjørknes blir til det du gjør det til. Det første året jeg gikk der ble jeg kjent med de jeg var på kollokviegruppe med. I matten fikk jeg en skolevenninne som har blitt en av mine nærmeste og senere roomie – noe som kom overraskende på meg siden jeg ikke har en eneste venn fra videregående. Tok opp to fag på Bjørknes dette halvåret også, men jeg snakket ikke til en ENESTE sjel. Jeg var så dypt deprimert at jeg verken hadde lyst eller overskudd til å snakke med noen. Hatet alle. Haha. Og for å være helt ærlig så angrer jeg på det – tror jeg hadde fått større utbytte og glede av fagene om jeg ikke hadde stirret på gulvet på hele tiden.

Anonymous said: Hello! I hope you are doing well :) I always wanted to study abroad and was wondering how hard it is to study medicine in a place like Oslo ? For someone who is from the USA, med school is very hard and also very long. I know that in Europe medical school is less long.

Med school in Norway is 6 years + 1.5 years of internship + residency (probably 5-6 years?). In order to apply to medical school in Norway, you have to be qualified i.e. you need specific subjects and obviously almost only straight A’s. I don’t know how the grading works for foreign applicants but you might be able to find some useful information over at Samordna Opptak and Study In Norway. It’s harder to get into medical school in Oslo as opposed to Bergen, Trondheim, and Tromsø. Medical school in Oslo is the hardest program to get into in Norway. I have no idea how it is like to study medicine in Oslo apart from that the environment is very competitive (of course). 

Anonymous said: What are some of your favorite instagrams?

kempern, waitsui, naddanoor, _collett_, hannius, stinevikne, devanx, assembledhazardly, stevie_dance, apc_paris, mrnbtrn, dabito, noemiferst, birtheloves, luciledemory, pascalgrob, clarissedemory, rick_poon, sarahdemx, claireamiller, ahndreuhh, alyssiaks_, seo8, lvah, joannakarenina, and mettelindgaard

Anonymous said: What do you think about the fact that you've shared so much about yourself over the internet, yet know very little (if anything) about many of the people who follow you? How does that asymmetry influence what you do or don't share, or how interact with people online?

Interesting that you’re asking. I’ve been mulling over this particular matter for as long as I’ve been blogging and, actually, even though it seems like I share a lot about myself online, it’s just a fraction of the entirety. And the fact that I’m sharing things about myself only exemplifies my personality or “my nature”: I’m an open, outgoing, honest person, and not afraid of putting myself out there. Now it sounds like I’m completely self-absorbed – which I hope I’m not – but I believe that you have to give in order to get.

It’s not really true that I don’t know anything about my readers because through comments, questions, messages, etc, I get a sense of who my readers are. Besides, I’m also interested in WHO my readers are – that’s one of the things I really miss about my old blog because the comments field was a lot more than just a comments field… more like a community of kindred spirits. And I kept asking my readers about their opinions and experiences in almost every blog post of mine, as I was and still am genuinely interested in my audience and wanted to generate discussions. My blog has never been just a one-man show.

Nonetheless, I believe that sharing is caring. Sharing myself online has certainly and unexpectedly opened several doors for me such as meeting wonderful readers from all over the world and making lots of new and good friends through the World Wide Web, for which I’m very grateful. I don’t think anyone could just do that albeit it seems so easy and accessible on the Internet. People are constantly reaching out to me, and I’m not sure if they would even do that if it weren’t for the fact that I’ve put myself out there. In order to make new friends or acquaintances “in real life”, you have to share something about yourself with people and eventually it will surely create mutual trust and connection, which is what relationships are based on.

Regarding that “asymmetry” you’re referring to, I would never share sensitive information or things that could affect the people in my life. I don’t use names etc. I don’t even use my real name on my blog(s). Sure, it’s out there somewhere but, at the end of the day, I’m fine with it. 

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April 24, 2014 at 10:22AM